My Gratitude
Hello friends what are you grateful for ? According to my Dragon sign Monday is my lucky day of the week and I have to agree . I’ve always enjoyed Monday’s and am grateful for a fresh start and new week. Ive talked about the importance of having boundaries while simultaneously sharing aspects of my personal life. Over the years my life has undergone many changes but one thing has always been consistent .. my fans. Without you guys and gals where would I be ? I realize that many of you only want to be entertained by my vast catalog of content and sex persona but a lot of you are genuinely curious about me Tera Patrick . Who I am outside of my work so here are some answers to your questions and curiosities…
Your burning questions …
How did you transition out of the Adult Industry? How do you live a normal life and work a normal job? How is life after porn? This question gets posed to me a lot and it must be strange or impossible to think that adult actors could live a normal life because sex work bears a huge stigma. Those of us who achieve fame or success in this line of work tend to be stigmatized . For me this hasn’t been the case. I’m happily married , raising my daughter , and work a normal job. I enrolled at my local university and language school. My family ,close friends, and colleges could care less about my past career it’s never come up. Yes I get recognized , everyday ,everywhere and I’ve had situations where fans will even ask me to take a photo with them in public . It’s going to be a part of my life forever and I have a lot of gratitude for it.
Now My Perspective …
Perspective is everything and mine has shifted over the years. I’ve had my shares of up’s and downs but I’ve always had support. My family has never shamed or shunned me for being in the industry. In my experience it’s about who you choose to let into your inner circle and personal space. This will have a huge impact on your mental health , your choices and the consequences of your choices.
It comes down to choices…
We have to choose wisely because our choices pave the way and set the pace of our life. Who do we choose to spend our time with? Are they elevating you ? Supportive of you ? Do you share a common goal or the same values? This is important. So often I see people just along for the ride and enjoying the financial benefits of your work but doing little else. My partner has his own career and when I first considered going back to school he was very supportive and excited for me. It’s been scary at times .
Not only having to do some of it in Italian , but I didn’t choose an easy subject AND with the possibility of never returning to the USA I’d have to find some way to use my degree here in Italy then secure a job. I mean ok that should be so easy right ? Stay tuned …
Regardless ,I’ve learned the importance of being grateful though the last decade of my life and this IS the point or what I’m trying to convey through my post .
When I start to feel stressed or sad I try to keep in perspective what I have ,who is with me and why I’m here . I don’t always have the answers I’m looking for and I can get caught up in some circular thinking. Here are a few things that keep me calm and centered when I feel lost or down some days .
Things that help me when I’m feeling down
- Meditation : It doesn’t have to be long sessions. Sometimes just 15 minutes of sitting cross legged in silence or on my back with my elbows behind my head breathing deep is the reset I need . What am I thinking about ? It varies really but it’s usually something that makes me happy like an animal or somewhere I’ve traveled or hope to travel . Think of something that brings you easy simple happiness and just let your mind relax and go …
- Some form of exercise. Doesn’t have to be heart pounding cardio (unless you want that!) but I find some stretching , yoga poses or a walk around my neighborhood is a good fresh reset .
- Music. Make a playlist or put on your favorite Itunes or spotify station and just tune everyone and everything out for a few. Music tends to motivate and recharge me . It always puts me in a good place !
I have what I need. The basics , my health ,my home ,food ,clean water , and these things especially now should never be taken for granted. My family is with me, I have friends I can depend on. I’ve also built up an INCREDIBLE fan base who’ve gone though life’s changes with me and stuck by me! The why is not always so clear. We don’t know what our purpose is or how we can find a deeper purpose in what we’re already doing . What we can do is just be patient and kind to ourselves and enjoy each day , every minute with gratitude.
XO Tera
