Happy Labor Day weekend! It’s a three day weekend what will you do with that extra day off ? This is typically a time for BBQ’s and get togethers but with lockdown and social distancing I’m assuming for my friends and family in the USA this isn’t going to be possible. During this lockdown period I’ve taken the opportunity to reach out to many friends. I know we get busy with our daily grind so I don’t expect to hear from certain friends every few months. I talked to my sister every Sunday no matter what. Every Sunday we just spend a few hours in between loads of laundry, cooking, and random mom – wife sh$$, leaving each other long voice notes on What’s App.

My best friend Charmane and I talk everyday. I have my husband, Mom, Dad, and and a few girlfriends I’m able to just rant to when I need it. Everyone wants to throw 2020 in the trash but hold up a second.. As crappy as this year has been it is important to keep a few things in perspective. The first is prioritizing my health. This isn’t the time to gain heaps of weight, and  become indolent. Everyday is an opportunity to better yourself.  This has become a time of uncertainty for many, but sitting around stressing about everything right now is counterproductive. It’s also detrimental to your health both spiritual and physical….

Something I started doing was meditating… I tend to be an empath and when friends ask me for advice I sometimes find myself a bit drained. That doesn’t mean I don’t like to listen or be there I do. I love to listen, discuss and give advice. I found that meditation gives me a lot of clarity. It has  helped me become less reactive especially in discussions and my business. Before bed I  like to do my second session of yoga. I do thirty minutes in the morning and 30 minutes at night. Yoga and just some basic stretching helps me let go of tension. I hold so much tension in my neck, shoulders, traps, and scapula. I keep a tennis balls handy ( see pic )and posture curve http://posturecurve.comI’ll even use every door frame in the house on my shoulder blades and lower back to press tension out of me! Resistance bands are a great addition to help with stretching and flexibility with the added bonus of being lightweight and easy to take when traveling.

On the contrary this year has been liberating for some. When we go through hard times it tends to make us reflective. This year of lockdown has brought out many underlying issues that we as a society are forcing ourselves and countless others to acknowledge. Even if you don’t actively watch the news or side with one political party and follow politics, you can’t turn a blind eye to what’s circulating on social media. Some of us are seeing who our real friends and family are. We find ourselves wondering ” were they always this way”? How did I not see this?  Share your opinion on ANYTHING that has to do with Vaccines, Corona Virus and you’re  labeled a conspiracy theorist . No one is allowed to have different ideas or views. The shouting begins! You’re stupid’ you’re a porn star what do you know! I’ve been told by countless fans I should be more active on social media ESPECIALLY when it comes to politics but to be honest I don’t want to. I can have calm, insightful, discussions with family and friends and that’s what I choose. As an entertainer  I prefer to show the positive aspects of my life. This doesn’t mean my life is without problems or that I don’t  go through things. I don’t feel the need to  share them online . My family issues or problems are for my family and I to resolve. Taking to social media for therapy isn’t healthy. So much of this  oversharing exists online today and it’s hard to decipher who or what is really serious. Is it just “let’s fake some struggles for clout…”? That’s what entertainment has become and I am not feeding into that.Sharing my problems for attention and sympathy has never been or  will never be me.

So in closing and in reference to my blog title… I wanted to share a story I read on another blog called http://www.feastingathome.com/chipotle-mayo/  I was cooking shrimp tacos and somehow ran across this lovely blog. There’s a few cooking blogs I like to reference, usually Gordon Ramsey but hers came up instead and I’m so happy it did!  Her name is Sylvia Fountaine http://www.feastingathome.comI saw this post for chipotle mayo and though Ooooh! Here’s  some other sauce/ salsa I can make since I’ve been on this nonstop binge of salsa and hot sauces!! What I read was a beautiful story about her mother. I shared it with two of my friends who are both at a crossroads in their lives right now too. One is contemplating divorce and another a new career path… If we’ve learned anything from what’s happening around the world right now it’s that change IS constant and it’s always happening. Maybe it’s because  as we go on our day to day  life routine we don’t see new laws being passed, we take what’s on the news and don’t question it or at this point we just don’t know who or what to believe anymore.  Some of us haven’t had our jobs taken away so  we haven’t been  affected as much. That doesn’t mean we should shut our own eyes and feelings off to those around us who are. This IS a time to seriously evaluate our own place in life. To stay healthy, to have hope that things are going to be ok. Everyone is processing what’s going on in their own way so if you don’t hear from someone try not to take it personal or better yet reach out and just say”hey, what’s up how are YOU, I’m thinking of you . I (try to) do this because I genuinely want the best for us all , I want everyone to be ok, and I believe that your life should be ever evolving and change is a GOOD thing! Cutting out things that aren’t beneficial or healthy for you need to be done. Growth happens when there’s change and adaptation is the most important survival skill! As I’ve said in my posts before, we will talk ourselves out of change because of fear. We settle, we believe that being unhappy, or complacent or uncomfortable is “ok” or “enough”… YOU are enough and if there’s something you’ve always wanted to try, or change about your routine ,or just do, well now is the perfect time to do it! Just try and I say GO!!! XO Tera